is pure “make believe”.
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In the movie “Raiders of the Lost Ark” Harrison Ford escapes the Nazis who are looking for him by jumping off his ship, swimming to and getting on the Nazi submarine carrying his pursuers, somehow making his way over to and (I guess) inside the boat itself without getting caught, traveling hundreds of miles to its destination, getting off the sub and making his way into the heavily guarded sub base without getting apprehended or drowning. We suspend our disbelief in order to experience these outlandish and heroic efforts.
Notice that somewhere inside you is a place where you can acknowledge or at least suspect something is not true but you still allow its influence. When you watched “Lion King” for the first time in an audience filled with kids, what happened when the
king is trampled by wildebeests? Did not every kid in the audience start crying because Simba lost his Daddy? This story is complete fantasy but our kids experienced it as real at some level. They expressed real emotions. Is it possible that what we can see and speak about as the “willing suspension of disbelief” is actually a normal, everyday real-life occurrence? That is, this
dynamic happens outside the world of literature and Hollywood.
“We experience as real emotion that which is make believe.”
You have control of your experience because you are the best story teller you know. Why? You believe your own stories. All of
us create an experience in life through a very active internal dialogue. We say things like, “this is hard” and we often say this about things that are “not hard”. Almost anything can be broken down into small enough chunks that we can engage it without overwhelming effort. In other words, “hard tasks” are made easy one step or chunk at a time. When it is hard “chunk it down”.
We frequently tell a story about “enough” and scarcity. We say that we don’t have enough time or enough money. Yet, we have all the time that we have. We have not been shorted…at all… on time. I have asked in a number of
seminars, “Who here has purchased something that you could not afford?” All the hands in the room go up. The last time I did this over 300 hands went up. I asked, “For those of you who could not afford the purchase…how many of you paid it off and continued
to pay your other bills and had three square meals a day?” Typically, out of 300 raised hands…all of them stay up. “Could not afford” is a story that we tell our self that limits our choices and creates anxiety. Perhaps, a better question here if you want to limit your financial resources by what is in your bank account at the moment is, “what do I want to create with the current financial resources I can see?” That is an emotionally healthier question than “given the current financial resources I can see, what are all the things I can’t have?”
A Few Questions
So, here are a few questions that you can ask yourself when you find yourself getting down that might intervene in your negative
1. What am I assuming in the story I am telling? In other words, what are the “no doubt about it facts” and what am I making up?
2. What do I want to create now?
3. What are the steps I could take to begin to create it?
4. If I had what I wanted now, what would it feel like to me?
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