All of us have positive and negative emotions. The negative emotions like fear, stress, anger, sadness and others tend to support our ability to just survive in this world. They move us to action when we feel threatened. They allow us to stay in the game. They sharpen our focus on a problem that must be urgently solved. In our society we are skilled at turning these emotions “on” and untrained or sometimes even amateurish at turning them “off”.
Positive emotions, on the other hand, serve a different purpose. They energize a different set of mental functions. They help us see the big picture, get on board…get inspired. Psychologists, Fredrickson and Branigan wrote in 2005 that positive emotions “broaden people’s momentary thought-action repertoires and build their enduring personal resources, ranging from physical and intellectual resources to social and psychological resources.” They increase our ability to be effective, to be social, to be our cognitive best and to be so long-term. They increase our ability to build in ourselves the attributes we desire and to be what every corporation in America would desire of their human resources and leadership teams.
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Shifting Away From Pain (2)
We are a quick fix, politically opportunistic, deadline driven, short term focused, “what can you do for me now” world and our corporations are typically not interested in something that is not driving the bottom line this month or quarter. Investing in our culture and people’s happiness does not top the list. Most would say it is important but have an internal narrative that carries some thematic dialogue like “if we let off the accelerator to focus on the softer issues we will get behind or miss our goals.”
So, for all of we goal oriented folks…change the goal. Let the goal have a birthday so that it can grow up, too. Maintain the focus of “hitting the numbers” and add as a simultaneous outcome a discovery process that enables the construction of a positive,
synergistic, collaborative and innovative family that is “our company”. Why must deadlines compromise “happy”? Why does one idea have to exclude the other? It doesn’t and the science of success is continually proving it. Ask the question, “if we were a high functioning, genuinely happy family at work” what would it look like? (There is more coming in the next post, “So What….Are the Advantages of Being Happy?”)